
For singer Amy Mastura motherhood is all about nagging and worrying. She worries about her children when they go to school and she worries about them even when they're at home.
The sweet mother of two girls - Adriana, eight years old, and Adalia, four, says motherhood has changed her a lot.
“There are a lot more responsibilities now. Being a mother, most of the time I feel worried. I constantly worry about my two daughters. I think that's what motherhood is all about. Every single day there is this feeling of worry. If they're sick, I worry. Or if they're okay, I worry in case they fall down. If they don't study, I worry too. When they go to school, I worry about them. If they make friends at school, I worry. If they don't make friends, I worry.
“I worry if my daughters cannot fit in. For me, you don't have to be clever; it's your PR (public relations) that matters. If you are nice to people, if you can fit in in any society, you'll be okay. So, I'm scared if they cannot fit in. I'm worried if my daughters have the type of character that society doesn't like,” says Amy, adding that her elder daughter is more like the father while the younger one is more like her.
She admits to being worried for them because they are girls. However, after a short pause, she points out that even if she had sons she would be equally worried.
“I don't just worry about who they meet or go out with when they leave the house. I also worry about them when they are at home – I'm scared they will open the gate and go out.
“I also try to prepare them regarding what to do if they meet strangers – what to do and where to go. I tell them if they are approached by 'bad people', leave the maid and run. Let the maid handle the 'bad person',” she says laughing.
Amy hopes her children will be able to fit in regardless of whether they are in the city, kampung or abroad.
“Fitting in is one thing, but they also must know their limitations so that they don't just do what everyone else is doing,” says Amy.
With her children as her top priority, Amy says she makes sure she's at home at night to see them before they sleep. She even accepts fewer outstation jobs now.
When they were younger, the girls used to go along with Amy for her outstation jobs. However, it is not so easy to do so now because they are both in school.
While Adalia still wants to tag along with her wherever she goes, Adriana prefers to stay at home and play computer games.
Amy doesn't put a limit on how much time the girls can spend on the computer as long as they finish their school work first.
When they are finished, then they can play computer games and watch TV as much as they want.
“There's no point in stopping them from using the computer because then they'll play games on the phone or the Game Boy. There are games everywhere,” says Amy.
Although she is more relaxed with certain things, Amy is very particular when it comes to respect for elders.
“I am particular about their manners and how they speak to their elders. I don't tolerate them speaking loudly or yelling at elders.”
Amy believes in spending as much time as possible with her children now while they are still young. She tells her husband that they better take the kids with them on holidays now before the day comes when the girls no longer want to spend time with them
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